Saturday, June 20, 2009

Is it me that you REALLY see?

            I admit it. I am a person who judges by the cover. The way something looks on the outside I tend to always think the inside is the same. I realize this all the time, especially with books, I will pick up a book by the title name or the way the cover of it is styled. I have a feeling this really alters the books I read. I also realized the other day it is the way I tend to read people. What they wear, a certain way they walk or even how they talk, I tend to think they even act a certain way. For example the other day walking into class, there was a woman walking just a few steps ahead of me, and at the same time there was a young man walking a few steps to the side of her. Now both of these people I noted did not seem like the type that would care too much about anything other then them. The way they dressed in that…”cocky” sort of way. They looked good and they knew it. As I acknowledged this to myself I noticed a piece of garbage scurrying across the ground like it was in a hurry to get to class along with everyone else. The young man stepped right over it without a second glance and I thought of course. Walking up onto that pesky liter myself, I figured might as well grab it and throw it away. Right at that moment the woman with the heels and blonde hair went after it. I was holding back an urge to giggle a bit as she sort of stumbled a couple times as it slipped past her grasp. The garbage seemed to want to play a game of “catch me if you can”. Once she grabbed the stubborn garbage, I suddenly remembered about all the stories this last couple of weeks we had to read, and how many of them dealt with reading people by their outside appearance. “Nipple Jesus” really came to my mind, as well as my short story “I Know What I am doing about All the Attention I am getting.” The woman threw that stubborn garbage in the closest can, and at that moment I suddenly regretted judging her. It’s not like I enjoy my judging from outside appearances, but when I think about it, isn’t it the way almost everyone has been raised? I also realize how much this reading or judging has been keeping me away from things I may actually quite enjoy. So I say “nonsense with this judging and reading things by the outside”, the next time I’m trying to decide what book I would like to read I will just pick up a book and not care about the cover. The same goes with people, if I see that person in the nice, expensive, fancy clothing and think that I really shouldn’t talk to them, they are just stuck up, I am going to shake that thought from my head and approach them without a second thought. Reading things from its cover, will get you nowhere near the truth of the actual qualities and possibilities a certain object could hold.

1 comment:

  1. Brandi, what a thoughtful post! Yes, I have fallen into this trap many times. It's almost like a reflex...when I see someone I am very quick to make assumptions. That's why I loved the narrator of Nipple Jesus. Behind all those tatts and muscles (and f-bombs!), he was a softie.

    I still totally judge books by the cover. That might be the artistic side of me...

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